Ancient Energy & Modern Balance – By Marissa Fatica

Tis the season of holy spiked eggnog, I have a hundred and eleven things to do! Sitting down and planning, creating and mapping out my upcoming obligations is an exhausting task and it only requires my brain, a piece of paper and a writing utensil…. How am I going to accomplish it all in my current state of confusion with a hint of heavy eyelids. The mere lines of needs and expectations are starting to blur together. If only I can divide and conquer, but as a woman with multiple hats I just can not!

So as I sit and ponder my life choices, and ask myself why did I take on all these tasks, I looked for a solution to my lag and I want to share my eureka moment!

Fatigue  and stamina the one thing I loath and the one think I crave, what can I due to address both issues I am facing. So to the innerweb I went, because lets face it, it has become the source of all self-relied knowledge. After getting lost in ads, blogs, self helps, I came across the holy grail! Two words will change your life and I hope you are sitting down and yes, feel free to send me copious amounts of love mail!!MACA ROOT!!

What is Maca Root you ask, well let me blow your mind and expectations with a simple supplement. No, I am not selling anything, this is not a pyramid scheme this is a root that is a treasure grown for us from mother earth herself. Maca root is known to help with chronic fatigue syndrome it promotes energy/stamina/endurance. It helps with stress relief and supports endocrine health. For us ladies it help with hormone imbalance, menstrual problems, and it has been know to dabble in helping our come hither here moments. It also helps boost a much need gland that we don’t think of or don’t know could use a helping hand. That gland is known as your thyroid gland, it is supports  a lot of things in your body.

Don’t take my word just take my challenge, it’s a week long and involves water and the simple task of swallowing a few pills. So lets reconvene and talk about how awesome and knowledgeable I am in aiding you in checking off all your assignments and goals, all while feeling like your younger self, you remember the one with no responsibilities.  

This is Marissa signing off with your irrefutable life hacks!!

Seeking O’Silent Night

Imagine your whole world coming to a standstill and the only sound you hear is the gentle inhale and exhale of your own breath.  How does that feel?

Within the dashing excitement and twinkling lights of this holiday season try to make time for silence and stillness to recharge your soul.  Sit down on the floor with your kids and introduce the practice with your kids. You have to start somewhere and the earlier your children see you slowing down to be present the better.

 

Virtually every moment of the day our consciousness is penetrated and interrupted by noise.  Reflecting the noise of the world is the noise of the mind with our varied thoughts be they loving, anxiety inducing, angry, happy, or exciting. Searching for silence is a reprieve from the excitement, distraction, and stimuli swirling around us like a whirlwind.  

 

When we set aside time for silence we cast an emptiness upon our minds which gives way to awareness.  We start being and stop doing.  Stillness gives way to peace and we start to cultivate an inner serenity that we bring with us into the world.  If you would like to experience a more joyful and peaceful holiday this year share the gift of silence and stillness with your family.

Are you a supermom?

Are you a supermom?

Tis the season in the era of superheroes.  What do we expect from the greatest superhero of them all during the holidays?  Supermoms are cooking up extravagant architectural designs for the grandest gingerbread homes on the block.  Supermoms are waiting in line at 3:00 am to get the perfect present to make this the most memorable holiday until next year.  Supermoms are baking mouthwatering healthy treats that are as delicious to the eyes as they are to the tummy.  Supermoms are doing it all and looking great doing it.  More than any other time of year this when supermoms shine like shooting stars streaking across the night sky.

 

The uncomfortable truth about being a supermom is that it is often a recipe for stress, resentment, anger, and sadness leading to physical illness. “Super syndrome” and “Supermom syndrome” are two terms gaining traction in psychology and life coaching circles.  Supers try to control every detail of life and often sacrifice their time, energy and health for the love of others.  Supers aim for perfection in service to their children, their spouses, their jobs, and their friends.  

 

What could possibly be wrong with possessing a strong drive to serve?  Supers aim for an idea that does not exist but in abstract, perfection.  It is an unattainable summit and in the process their own needs are not met.

 

Since the goal is beyond reach and essential human needs are not met, supers develop excess self-criticism, self-disbelief, depression, and pessimism.  As a result they often lose sleep, have a constant drip of cortisol in their blood stream, may suffer eating disorders, have poor self image, and lose motivation.  Sure to follow from living an imbalanced life would be adrenal fatigue, autoimmune disease, cardiovascular damage, and mood disorder.

 

There is hope for supermoms and other superheroes.  Dr. Molly Barrow, a clinical psychotherapist, suggests drawing a pie chart each day and blocking off 8 hours for sleep.  She recommends putting your priorities into the pie chart and celebrating your successes each day.  “Well I was able to make Christmas decorations with my child today, but I wasn’t able to paint his room.”  Treat it as a victory.  Give yourself a pat on the back.  We all ought to try to be a little more human and a little less superhuman.  Try learning to let go, embracing the imperfect, and celebrating the incomplete this holiday season.

A child’s odyssey of hardship defiance and hope

Does hardship in childhood keep your child from being successful?

Divorce, chronic illness, trauma, abuse, addiction and neglect are common settings for childhood. 75% of children experience at least one of these ongoing stressors.

So we worry as parents, “Is a child’s full potential limited by these difficult circumstances? Or worse, do these childhood events result in an adult life of despair and dysfunction?”

The good news is NO!

Social scientists studied 400 of the most successful people in the 20th century and this is what they found:

1. Less than 15% were raised in supportive, untroubled homes, and

2. 75% grew up in a family burdened by poverty, abuse, absent parents, alcoholism, or serious illness.

Adverse childhood events teach resilience.

Children learn a way of life to courageously face repetitive and ongoing battles with determination. They are trained to handle adversity and succeed by surviving a decades-long endeavor. Born of the forges of an adverse childhood is a soul ready to flourish.

They flourish by seeking people who care, fighting for a better life for themselves, setting goals, and seizing opportunities.

They possess an inner defiance. Some show it externally by being in a constant battle against others. Others surrender externally while remaining internally defiant. The common denominator is inner defiance and either manifestation is essential.

Basically, inner defiance creates a decades-long resilience that results in a scale of success uncommon among us.

Stress can be a teacher and a coach.  Through the exercise of responding to stress, reshaping an attitude towards stress, and overcoming stress resilience is born. It is born of habit. You become stronger with practice.

People are not more successful because of a happy, stress-free childhood. They are more content and accomplished because of internal fortitude and believing in themselves.

Addressing ADD Naturally?

A mother recently asked me how I would naturally address inattentiveness (ADD) in a 14-year-old.
Like her, many of you know and love someone with this common condition and would like to try a natural approach before resorting to medications.
Symptoms of inattention, as listed in the DSM-IV, are:
  • often fails to give close attention to details or makes careless mistakes in schoolwork, work, or other activities;
  • often has difficulty sustaining attention in tasks or play activities;
  • often does not seem to listen when spoken to directly;
  • often does not follow through on instructions and fails to finish schoolwork, chores, or duties in the workplace (not due to oppositional behavior or failure to understand instructions);
  • often has difficulty organizing tasks and activities;
  • often avoids, dislikes, or is reluctant to engage in tasks that require sustained mental effort (such as schoolwork or homework);
  • often loses things necessary for tasks or activities (e.g., toys, school assignments, pencils, books, or tools);
  • is often easily distracted by extraneous stimuli;
  • is often forgetful in daily activities.
Begin with diet.
Lots of ADD/ADHD children have GI issues that may include: abnormal carbohydrate digestion, esophagitis, and pancreatic dysfunction.  The GI tract produces most of the brain’s serotonin and serotonin helps to stop “loop thinking.”
Since the gut is the main entrance for nutrients and the main exit point for toxins then GI issues are the first point of correction. Supplements alone are only half the story.
Proper digestion and absorption are essential to give your brain what it needs to stay on track. Furthermore, if your child’s GI tract has a problem than their brain may be receiving inflammatory markers and this increases the chance of excitability and inattention.
Make sure carb intake is controlled to avoid sugar highs and crashes, to ensure a yeast problem does not exist, and to check that all sugars are digested (especially the FODMAP ones.)
Further, the stool has to be checked to see if the consumed foods are being digested. If not then the stomach acid may need to be boosted and/or pancreatic enzymes needed.
Once this is done then focus on energy and anti-inflammation via food and supplements.
Supplements would include mitochondrial support, multivitamin, probiotics, fish oil and vitamin D3.
We have these in the office. The world of supplements is huge and overwhelming so I have done the homework for my patients. I am happy to share them with people who seek wellness.